I know what people are getting at when they say not to do this but I do actually appreciate knowing if someone’s mental illness is at work when they give me an apology? like I don’t think it’s wrong to say “sorry for ghosting you, I had a paranoid episode and could barely look at my phone for two months” or “sorry for missing this event, I was really depressed and couldn’t get out of bed” or “sorry I acted really weird and left quickly the other day, something triggered me and I couldn’t figure out how to cool down until I was alone” because those are full and complete answers that would be less accurate if the symptom were edited out. I know what those things mean and I would actually prefer to know if my friend messed something up for reasons not entirely within their control rather than have them attempt to take responsibility for things they already actively try to avoid doing.
